Insomnia: great as a song title, but in real life, a mind numbing, wear you down, make you dread going to bed sort of problem that in mid life, seems to me to be impossible to crack.
I know that insomnia is menopause related ….but it seems I have exacerbated the problem by moving house. Since the huge adrenaline surge in August, when our old place sold, insomnia has been my constant companion.
First it was the excitement of the huge life decision, then the constant ‘will we won’t we’ get the bungalow’ feeling. Worry for 12 weeks about whether either sale would fall through didn’t help one bit. Then of course the agonising over what needs to be done and choices to be made on décor is still ongoing.
I long ago gave up going to bed with House Beautiful mag. Far too stimulating for the brain! Instead I switched to dull reading material ….but all to no avail.
I’m a big fan of a posh candle…Neom especially, but so far, that’s not cutting it either – although it does smell beautiful.
Wine works….for about three hours! So that’s no blimmin use and makes me feel rubbish anyway.
Exercise – yes! Yin yang yoga is a great help – I need to do more of it. Walking is great and most days I get my 10k steps. Running however is another issue – my energy levels have plummeted, and although I did a couple of short runs last week, I am nowhere near last summer’s fitness level.
When I analyse what’s keeping me awake, aside from the horrible hot flushes that are par for the course with menopause, it’s the constant whirring of the brain which just will not switch off! I downloaded the Headspace app last week and have started doing the mini meditation exercises – they do help me feel sleepy so with perseverance this could be a big help. I also keep a notebook by the bed to empty my thoughts before I sleep. Some suggest you should write down things in the middle of the night as they come to you, but I don’t think hubby would appreciate me turning the light on and waking him up too!
People recommend a good bed – well my mattress is only a year or so old and I have the best quality white cotton bed linen I could afford so no worries there. The bedroom is not yet a sanctuary though as it’s still a clash of someone else’s carpet and some shabby wardrobes…but next month the new glossy white fitted wardrobes will be in and we’ll have a pale carpet on the floor – no more shouty patterns.
I have invested in decaff PG Tips and I also enjoy herbal teas too, so no caffeine after mid day is quite easy to put into practice.
Then of course, there are trips to the loo! I have a big glass of water by the bed and get incredibly thirsty when I can’t sleep so I’m up two or three times in the night. I don’t have bladder weakness luckily, but 61% of women experience bladder weakness at some time in their lives, so TENA Lady has some solutions for anyone that has their sleep disrupted by their bladder:
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I really hope that this problem will sort itself out in the next 12 months, as it really is wearing me down. The joys of being a middle aged woman!!
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